Thursday, October 14, 2010

"Safe" blogging

There are lots of topics on my mind about wifehood.  However, not all of them are appropriate for daily conversations.  You know, the more... intimate subjects.

Not that I want to go into gory detail with you, readers, oh no.  But can I talk about them?  Can I talk, for example, about... other obligations to my husband?  You know, the ones outside of 'to honor and cherish'...
And the ones inside the privacy of our home.

Not that I feel any woman is obligated to do things of this nature for anyone... let me make that clear.  If it's unwanted by either party, of course, then that's that.  But I like to keep my guy happy.

But how much is too much, blog world?  I know my mom may read this, and other 'family'... but I want to be open and honest.  If I'm writing about what it means to be a wife, what aspects do I leave out? What aspects shall I be certain to include? 

How 'safe' should my blog be, readers?

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Grey's Anatomy: A Shock(ing Revelation)

OK Y'all, I'm a huge, HUGE fan of Grey's Anatomy.  Seriously.  I hate when I have to miss an episode.  Thank God for Hulu, amiright?

Those of you who watch it know that Mark Sloan, while gorgeous... well, he isn't exactly what I'd call 'bright' or 'all there' in the relationships department.  But a couple weeks ago, he really got to me.  I think he's changing, you guys.  I call first dibs.


In all seriousness, though, he said something that really made me think, "These Hollywood writers get what marriage is supposed to be!!"  Because usually, I don't get that.  I see sex and cheating and fights and back and forth and... well, you get the point.

But on this day, Mark had realized how much he loved Lexi (or "Little") Gray.  They've been through some tough times, y'all, and she went crazy after a murderous shooter killed several staff members and threatened her life.  But Sloan, you see, all he wants is to be with her, think and thin.  He says:
"I know who she is.  And if she's going through her worst right now, I want to go through it with her.  She makes me happier than... anything I've ever known.  And if I can have a part in making her happy again, that's all I want to do.  That's all I want to do for the rest of my life."

This reminds me of what my last couple years have been like.  You see, I suffered from some NASTY post partum depression.  In many ways, I'm still suffering from it.  I'll write more about that later this week and into next.

But my sweet, strong husband carried me through it.  He could have bailed... he could have left me to dig my way out of it.  But he said he wouldn't, and he didn't.  He was there through all the different medications I had to try, he was there when I couldn't crawl out of bed.  He came home early on days I needed him (which was every day...), and ultimately lost his job because he put his family first.

I'll never, ever, be able to thank him enough or repay him for all those things.

And I think to myself, I wonder, if I would do those things.  Would I sacrifice to carry him?  Would I hold his hand when he cried, put all of my needs aside for however long it took for him to get 'back to normal'?  And even beyond, if he never went back?

I sure hope so.  Because isn't that what being a spouse is all about?

Monday, October 11, 2010

The white board (or, how to lower my stress levels!)

I was going to title this post White Power.  Then I realized how bad that would sound!

At any rate, this is my white board:


This is where we lay out our plan for happiness, essentially.  We get to set up our daily chore list... or, rather, what we need done in order to feel content and {relatively} stress free. As we get those things done, we get to check them off.  And how satisfying is that?!?  We also have a weekly and monthly to-do.  Things like  mopping, taking the garbage to the curb, and heartworm preventative.  On the bottom is a calendar portion- important appointments, parties, and other essential dates.  Right now, it's reminding us of our 'anniversary' (we met 4 yeas ago on the 30th!) and some Halloween parties we have coming up.  On the right side is our grocery list- if we think of something we need that isn't on our usual list, we jot it down.  And of course, a space for sweet notes to each other.

We went a long time without our white board in place.  And believe me, it showed.  Our house was pretty much a disaster 24/7, I was embarrassed to have people over without spending hours cleaning, and we were so stressed and overwhelmed all. the. time.  It was really beginning to take its toll.

So, I made a decision to get it back up.  It's not exactly laid out like our original was, but it's pretty close.  And it's all erasable, of course, so we can change things up as needed.  It's in an easily visible (for us! However, a typical guest would not see it!) spot, and reminds us daily of what needs to be done!

And the difference it's made in our lives- well... it's pretty visible:

What about you guys?  What's your preferred methodical madness to keeping your house in order?

Our house is clean enough to be healthy, and dirty enough to be happy.  ~Author Unknown
 
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